It seems there are several views on how females should dress.
The first and most popular way to dress is to follow worldly fashion with all of its glitz and glam, showing as much skin as possible. Whatever it takes to catch someones eye and to create the illusion that one is wealthy according to what is in their closet. Years ago, I was in this category.....sadly enough. As I mentioned previously, this has been a long process for me. Even sadder is the fact that this way of dressing is devouring our churches and "Gods People".
The second way of dressing is to follow worldly fashion with all of its glitz and glam, not necessarily showing cleavage or tummy's or thighs.....this style is the skin tight jeans and shirts that might fit a five year old, but a well endowed grown woman is wearing them. These styles are the ones that leave nothing to the imagination, not one single curve. What is today's solution to panty lines? Is it to not wear your clothing too tight? No, its to change to underclothes that show no lines. This way of dressing, sadly enough, is also running rampant through our churches today. This way of dressing fools women into thinking they are dressing modestly due to the fact that they are covered from the neck to below the knees, but the clothes are so extremely form fitting, that skin doesn't have to be showing for men to know exactly how the woman would appear naked.
A third way of dressing is in a Godly manner, one that honors God by protecting our body and protecting our "brothers in Christ" by wearing clothes that do not attract attention away from being seen as a Godly woman. As women, we can be biblically modest and feminine without looking like worldly women. God calls for us to be set apart. We represent Christ and the body of Christ, it breaks my heart to see "Christian" women portraying Christ by dressing in a very provocative way. It takes a very strong woman to not follow worldly fashions and it begins with the first step. Seeing it for what it truly is. When the world looks at us, what do they see? Do they see another flashy, fashionable woman that is imitating what is splashed all over the TV and magazines and is walking around as a slave to the fashion industry? Or do they see a well dressed, feminine and beautiful Godly woman that portrays Christ and honors God with her modesty?
I love wearing dresses, I love to honor God in how I dress and how our daughter dresses. This is my heart. Like I mentioned before, it has taken me several years to get to this point, but I am grateful to God for putting my heart through the fire on this subject. I know where my heart was and how insecure I was when I dressed immodestly. Now I can't even stand to have writing on my shirts, I refuse to be a billboard for anyone and to draw attention to my chest. My body is the temple of God, and a God given gift to my husband. For me to walk around drawing attention to it would disrespect God, disrespect my husband and disrespect myself.
This journey has been very interesting, especially as I go through bins full of clothes we don't wear anymore. I look at them and think, WOW, I can't believe I ever wore such trash. Lots of it I have burned instead of donated because I don't want anyone else wearing it either. Cleaning those clothes out of my house and out of my life was invigorating! It made a BOLD statement to the "fashion industry" that I wasn't their slave any longer.
So what do we do for clothes? We sew!!! We have searched high and low for great patterns and ideas and believe it or not, you can make some of the most beautiful clothing you have ever owned or purchase it custom made for you if you look in the right places. These things will not be found in any store.....certainly not Wal-Mart.
Now I realize that to many women, these are fighting words, but read this quote from Peter Marshall:
I believe women come nearer fulfilling their God-given function in the home than anywhere else. It is a much nobler thing to be a good wife than to be Miss America. It is a greater achievement to establish a Christian home than it is to produce a second-rate novel filled with filth. It is a far, far better thing in the realm of morals to be old-fashioned than to be ultramodern. The world has enough women who know how to hold their cocktails, who have lost all their illusions and their faith. The world has enough women who know how to be smart. It needs women who are willing to be simple. The world has enough women who know how to be brilliant. It needs some who will be brave. The world has enough women who are popular. It needs more who are pure. We need woman, and men, too, who would rather be morally right that socially correct.
This opens up discussion for many topics, most of which have to do with feminism. I do not have the proper words to firmly state how I believe that the rise of feminism has been the death of the family and is corrupting our churches, however, this is not what this post is about. For more on the feminism topic, please see the wonderful site of Ladies Against Feminism.
There are some terrific articles on femininity and modesty at Promoting Womanhood.
This path of honoring God through our dress is not an easy one, it is not for the weak hearted or weak of mind. Just this Sunday, I was approached at church by another mother. Our daughters were participating in a song during service and the dress requirement was a white shirt and dark pants. We obviously do not normally wear pants, and we absolutely refuse to wear them to church. This other mother approached me with the understanding/assumption that our daughter wasn't going to be able to participate because she didn't have any jeans. I assured her that our daughter was participating, but the conservation was a bit shocking and hurtful and her demeanor was one of pity. I held my tongue quite frankly because I was shocked that this mother couldn't even conceive of daughters dressing in a way other than jeans and a T-shirt on a Sunday morning and that to not allow your daughter to dress this way was subjecting them to feeling rejected from the main stream. My first reaction was shock, than I even felt angry and hurt. I have to continually remind myself that this journey of modesty is between me and God and that we are all at different stages in our walk with God and that the topics God is convicting me on are different topics for others. I am not here to judge others or what they think of our family, I am here to be a light and to represent Christ and to take courage in where the Lord is leading us. If I cave in to what the world says I should dress like, what am I going to tell my Father in Heaven?